A reminder from Hugh Hefner about Lust: an obsession of the mind and an allergy of the body.

A reminder from Hugh Hefner about Lust: an obsession of the mind and an allergy of the body.

...Obsession of the mind refers to the invasive and pervasive fantasies about sex which get stuck in the mind of an addict. These are often triggered (as well as fueled) by fears and resentments. Triggers are what we refer to in addiction as the starting point of the addictive process. The process moves from the trigger, to mental obsession, also called fantasy, to planning some sort of acting out behavior to relieve the obsession, to finally acting out (i.e. acting out through porn and masturbation) the final phase is guilt and remorse...

Paying for Play: Does therapy work for young children?

Paying for Play: Does therapy work for young children?

...Some parents may ask themselves why they cannot simply provide play therapy at home.  There are several reasons.  First, oftentimes at home, there are multiple distractions and the parents may not have the time to solely dedicate to play with the child while ignoring these distractions.  Or, the emotions and thoughts that need to be processed are related to the parent, disallowing the child to appropriately display their feelings with the parent present.  This does not mean that the parent is necessarily at fault for the child’s emotions or behaviors, but sometimes it is helpful for the child to have an outlet outside of the home...

Knowing When to Hit “Snews"

Knowing When to Hit “Snews"

...You’ve probably heard of sensory overload, such as when in a club with strobe lights, deafening music – it’s just too much to process and we get overwhelmed. I have worked with some people that have had what I call information overload. I’m not even talking about the news, but even seemingly good information. Podcasts, audiobooks, blogs, self-help books, productivity apps, etc. But with so much information about what we should do to become more productive, how we could improve our lives in this way or that, or 10 things that you need to know about what you’re really eating, we can reach a place of paralysis. It’s impossible to do everything, so what is most important? ...

Curious About Therapy? Find Some Smart Answers Here

Curious About Therapy? Find Some Smart Answers Here

...The question for smart, successful people becomes,“What type of support do I need?” In a previous blog I pointed out that therapy is an endeavor that requires time and commitment.  I often find that people are surprised when they learn that individual therapy could take a year or more to change deeply rooted patterns of thinking or behaving, or to recover from the effects of traumatic experiences...

Even Therapists Learn in Marriage Prep

Even Therapists Learn in Marriage Prep

...My husband and I tried to focus on the marriage sacrament and fully understanding from our Catholic faith what we were getting ourselves into. However, there are countless distractions that disrupt this focus—so many plans to be made, less and less time together talking about anything other than the “big day”, and that darn Pinterest site! It took a million reminders from each of us to return to the nature of the sacrament....

Maintaining your sanity in difficult family relationships

Maintaining your sanity in difficult family relationships

...It is difficult to modify relationships with the people we have known since we existed. Due to the closeness of these bonds, family can at times feel entitled to knowing things about your life or to having a role in it. When we try to change these dynamics it throws a monkey wrench into the relationship and it feels extremely uncomfortable, like a loose tooth. First: do not make the mistake of interpreting that feeling as an indicator that you are doing something wrong! It’s uncomfortable because you are trying out a new way of being with your family, and you’re not quite sure how to do that yet. Second: you are not destroying your relationships; you’re just making them something that you can actually live with without storing up resentment like barnacles on a boat. If things unravel for a time because you are asserting your right to live healthily, even if it is a life separate from family, their feelings are not your responsibility. They need to deal with their emotions! 

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The next two of seven choices you can make to reduce the feeling of anxiety.

The next two of seven choices you can make to reduce the feeling of anxiety.

...On the occasion that I have reached out to a friend or family member, even if just over the phone, I find myself having a much better attitude and perspective on life. The perspective beyond my own narrow little world is really important to put my stress in its proper place. It doesn’t take much effort either. Like I said, it can just be a phone call, or having that ice cream out with a friend...